Blog #14
She was the
worst teacher I ever had. She was the best teacher I ever had. This is a true “Tale
of Two Teachers” all rolled into one.
Mrs.
Dellenbaum, my sixth grade teacher, had everyone read their creative stories to the class and would
announce to everyone what the grade was.
It was definitely embarrassing to those who did not do well. One day, Marla read her “F” paper to the class and we
learned what a poor paper was like. Then to our surprise, the following day, Mrs. Dellenbaum made a grand apology to Marla and elevated the “F” to a “C”. She said that
she realized it was not fair to give Marla an “F”, when that was all she was
capable of. I now wonder if Marla lived
up to the teacher’s low expectation.
Most students would rather be thought to be lazy than stupid. I never
forgot that example of what not to do, when I became a teacher.
She loved IQ
scores and labels. When the scores came
out in December, we had a not so private conference with the teacher about what
we were expected to do in junior high, in high school and in life. We could hear what was said about everyone in the
class. How embarrassing! It appeared
that your future was sealed by the IQ pronouncement! I was fortunate, because my IQ score went up
20 points since the last time I was tested and moved me into the rank of an
“able learner”. But I wasn’t able
enough!
When the end of
the year came, I was moving across town to a new school, where none of my
friends that I had had since kindergarten would be. At the same time, Karen, a brilliant student,
was moving to the east coast. I loved
Mrs. Dellenbaum and told her I wanted to write to her every day (for the rest of
my life). I asked her if she would write
back. She said that she was only going
to write to one person from our class that year and that would be Karen,
because Karen was going to go somewhere in life and would be somebody really
special. After all, Karen had a genius
IQ!
Mrs. Dellenbaum
was a super hero of a teacher. I was pretty sure she could fly. This very
short, stout, sixty-five year old widow with olive skin and a tight,
black-haired bun on top of her head was a powerful storyteller. She made even
the most mundane things interesting. We
did more art projects that year than I had done in all my other elementary years
combined. We made batik, paper mache,
clay projects and more. We decorated our room with our many creative
masterpieces. Drama and French were part of what we did on a daily basis.
Responsibility, teamwork and leadership were learned through community projects
of all types.
We graded each
other’s work and pushed ourselves to greater heights academically. She
compelled us to excel and we, as a whole, responded. There was a lot of
writing, a lot of speaking and a lot of reading in her class. Learning was really
fun!
One day, after
I had read a story I had written to the class and elaborated on my ideas, Mrs.
Dellenbaum said, “I think you will be a good teacher one day, because you
explain things so well.” (She must not
have thought that being a good teacher was “going somewhere in life.”)
When I moved
away, I longed to see her and missed her. I wondered if she ever thought about
me. I really had an ache in my heart for
her. I really did not comprehend her faults or weaknesses until much
later. I thought Mrs. Dellenbaum was the
world’s greatest teacher when I was eleven in the sixth grade and the thrill of
learning and my own exciting future was unfolding before me.
I remember you and the parents talking about this person. She inspired you because you were an excellent student and only saw good in this teacher. How many lives did she ruin, or negatively affect by her arrogance,and thoughtless and hurtful comments? You are a so vastly much better teacher than she could have ever dreamed to be!
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